When you get the phone call, or receive the bad news from the doctor that you have tested positive for herpes, it may feel like your life as you know it is over. Receiving a positive diagnosis like this can feel overwhelming, and can make you spiral into a negative space, but what you need to understand about this, is that this is normal. You will get through this and live as well as you did before. Millions of people across the United States are living with this diagnosis and they have laid the groundwork for how to live your life to the fullest in the face of your diagnosis.
Once you are diagnosed with herpes, you can establish a hobby or passion in a way you hadn’t before. By throwing yourself fully into a new hobby like jogging, or painting, or woodworking you will begin to work out some of the excess anxiety your diagnosis has caused you. You need to take your mind off of all the potential anxieties this has caused you. Clear your mind through yoga or physical fitness. You can still enjoy what you have always enjoyed.
Begin to find herpes support groups either online or offline! Offline, your doctor should be able to point you in the proper direction to find those who have struggled with your mutual diagnosis. You can seek out help through therapy and talk out your feelings. While online you can reach out to many of the chat groups and support groups found online. This allows you to maintain some anonymity when discussing your issues and find others who are living with the same problems and obstacles as you are.
Stay positive! One mistake or diagnosis does not define who you are. You have an incredible list of resources to maintain your outlook on life. You are the same person you were ten seconds before the doctor gave you your diagnosis. You can not and should not forget that. You are going to sleep in the same bed you were before your diagnosis. Nothing has to change. You can still be you and you can still find joy and success in this life despite your diagnosis. You do not have to let this disease control your life. You are stronger than herpes.
Get back out there in the dating pool! The biggest way you can conquer your fears of not having a normal life is by immersing yourself back in the market. If you are still feeling uneasy about it, please remember there are so many new sites that incorporate your new illness into their matchmaking. There are specifically herpes positive dating websites so that you never have to encounter that awkward herpes conversation, they will already know.
Take your medicine! This may seem like a no brainer, but often people who are recently diagnosed with herpes will forgo treatment in their initial depressed state. Do not fall into this trap! The only way you can get better, and see how the medicine truly affects you in your day-to-day life is to take it as prescribed by your physician. This way they can alter your prescription as needed based on your feedback. You can be active in your own prescriptions.